How NOT to Promote your Business or Products

Hey guys. This is going to be one of those random rant posts. I've been hanging out a lot lately in the direct sales Facebook groups which are supposed to be for networking, promoting products, etc.

Now, I understand people want to get the word out there but seriously? These groups are filled with hundreds if not thousands of other consultants trying to blast people with their opportunity.

You know what??? I'm guilty myself of this very same thing. I understand that a lot of times it comes from just wanting to reach out.

You're so excited about your company and products you want to stand high on a mountain and shout it out to the whole world. I get it. But most people aren't joining these groups looking for an opportunity, they're joining because they're trying to recruit or make sales. In most cases they don't even see your posts.

When you bombard people with verbal vomit their eyes tend to just glaze over and it's like no one is really home. And if anyone actually happens to join these groups looking for an opportunity or a consultant to buy from they can easily become overwhelmed.

There are also people in there trying to lure group members to various game sites. They come in and post something like "I have tons of friends who are desperately looking for "insert direct sales company names here" consultants. PLEASE tell me who you're with!!!"


They're trying to get you into their group where they have "games" and you buy from other consultants of various companies. Now that's great if you have interest in buying tons of products from various sellers. I don't have use for most of it.

We're in this to make money, right? Not spend money. I'm all for supporting other small businesses but when it comes down to it, I don't need a bunch of product sitting around that I'll never use.

So basically what I'm saying is making numerous posts in these groups probably isn't the best way to promote your business or the best use of your time. Instead, why not spend time getting to know your potential customers?

Give them a reason to keep coming back to you by adding value to their lives through something other than products. People tend to buy from those they know, like, and TRUST. What are you doing to make them trust you?

You don't gain trust by verbally vomiting all over them, I'll tell you that right now.

Get them to engage with you, let them get to know you while you're getting to know more about them. They may not even be interested in your products but maybe they know someone who is. If they don't trust you do you think they're going to give you that referral? Nope.

Succeed by helping others.

There's nothing wrong with the "Be Obsessed or Be Average" mentality but be obsessed about reaching out, listening and getting to know someone's wants and needs, and making a difference instead of trying to sell to everyone within 3 feet of you. =)

What if you FAIL? WHAT IF YOU DON'T???

Recently I was approached with a Ground Floor opportunity with a new direct sales company that just launched June 1st, 2017.

I'm not a stranger to direct sales but I've never had the chance to get in at the beginning of a launch and that alone made me want to go for it, not to mention joining was FREE.

The products Country Scents Candles provides are scented candles (of course), Wax melts, Aroma beads and Wax Burners.

I'm somewhat addicted to wax melts so I figured WHY NOT?

I get a 25% Discount/Commission on all products, a free e-store, I only have to purchase SOMETHING once every three months to remain active.

What do I have to lose?


The way I see it, this could be the next HUGE direct sales company. You never know. And what makes it even more appealing is the products are made in the United States, Kentucky to be exact, and that's important to me.

Also, the products are 100% Chemical Dye Free and the candles and melts are made from 100% Soy. When extras are added in to the wax it dilutes the fragrance and I'm all about fragrance and the scent throw on these is amazing.

So the question was posed, What if you put all this effort into this business opportunity and it fails?

Seriously guys, there's a risk factor in everything you do.

What if you get up in the morning, go downstairs, fall on your way down and break a leg?

Does that mean you should stay in bed all day just in case you might fall?

That would be ridiculous, right?

Getting in on the ground floor is such an amazing thing because you can build a team and get a portion of their sales as income.


Honestly, I don't see the downside to this PLUS I can earn free product and get discounts on something I REALLY love.

Don't let the fear of failure hold you back when it comes to ANYTHING. If you try and fail, you've gained experience.

If you don't try you'll never know and then you'll be plagued with all the WHAT IFS.

I'd rather take my chances.

How about you?

If you're ready to take a risk, plant some seeds today, FOR FREE, I'd love to have you on my team. Just click the Country Scents Candles image above or visit my website and click on Consultant Signup.


Where Shame Comes from... Whitney Way Thore - TEDx Talk


That's a loaded word, isn't it? So many of us feel shame on a regular basis. Shame is our constant companion. It follows us through our day to day life and we sometimes don't even realize it. Shame can come from a lot of places but if not dealt with it can absolutely hold us back from living the life we were created to live.

When you're dealing with shame you always feel like you're less than worthy. It has a way of creeping in and ruining what should be joyous occasions.

Maybe you don't feel like you're a good friend, spouse, sibling, maybe you haven't been to church in a while and not feeling worthy, maybe you're addicted to something, maybe you're fat. Whatever the reason, you're never enough.

Where does this shame come from anyway? Something someone has said to you? Something you've constantly said to yourself?

Somewhere along the way you started to believe you weren't good enough, that you're flawed in some way, or a lot of ways, that you're not worthy. And as crazy as it seems, I think after a while we start to use shame as a crutch. We hide behind our shame. We use it to explain other peoples' behavior toward us.

"No, they can't like me and it's okay because I'm fat, or ugly, or I'm a horrible friend, etc"

We also might use our shame to protect ourselves from the outside world.

I think shame can send us on a never ending cycle of self loathing. We don't value ourselves so we don't expect anyone to see our worth either. It's like we are projecting the hate we have for ourselves onto someone else. Before giving anyone the chance to form their own opinion, we're right in there making it clear that "it's okay that you don't want to be around me, be seen with me, it's okay that you bully me because I accept that I'm a piece of crap. It's okay for you to ignore me. It's okay because I'm too ugly, shy, fat, careless, or lazy"

We need to STOP it.

I'm a big believer in the law of attraction and if we keep letting these negative thoughts lead us, how far can we possibly get? What kind of people are we going to attract into our lives when we feed ourselves these lies about not being good enough.

Maybe we ARE fat.

Maybe we aren't the best parent.

Maybe we aren't the best looking.

So? Why does everything have to be a contest?

Confidence is the key to overcoming shame. Not caring what other people think and getting past caring so much, putting those voices inside your head to rest. The voices that say you're not good enough, you know the ones I'm talking about. How do you drown them out?

I guess you just do what you have to do and don't worry about it. It's scary as hell to think about but I don't see any other possible way. You have to expose yourself to situations that make you uncomfortable. You have to keep pushing forward even when you feel like everyone is laughing at you, looking at you with disgust. Keep going.

Whitney's TEDx Talk really spoke to me because she said something about confidence that totally hit home. She said Confidence comes from action. You don't all of a sudden wake up full of confidence one day and then everything is better. You build your confidence by facing things, taking things head on, realizing that the focus doesn't have to be on you. Inside our heads we are pretty important but in reality we're just a tiny blip. We barely register in the overall scheme of things.

 No, I'm not saying we're insignificant or unimportant but we need to get over ourselves.

There are going to be times when we think we've done everything right but things still go wrong. That's life. There are too many variables in any given situation to keep placing all the blame on yourself.

There will be times when you give someone or something everything you have. You pour your heart and soul out, blood, sweat, tears... but it's still not enough.

Keep going. Don't let anyone determine your worth.

Listen to Whitney's TEDx Talk about Shame & Confidence.

Do You Have a "Home Team"?

Browsing through Facebook posts this evening I came across this certain text image that made me stop and think. 

For days now I've had the feeling that someone out there somewhere is having a difficult time. Someone I'm connected to, maybe a reader of my blog, one of my pages on Facebook... I'm not sure but I can't shake this feeling.

 And then this evening, I read this:

The automatic assumption of many is that EVERYONE has a "Home Team". It's assumed everyone has a support system to turn to when things get rough. It's a nice idea but unfortunately, it's not true. Not everyone has a home team to turn to. I know because I haven't always had one. I'm sure I'm not the only one.

Maybe they've distanced themselves from friends over the years, maybe they have too much pride to reach out and ask for help. Maybe they're so introverted they really don't have any friends, or maybe they suffer from social anxiety so intense they've secluded themselves and shut everyone out. Maybe they don't even know how to begin piecing together a support system. It happens.

Movies and books often romanticize the loner persona. Honestly, there's nothing romantic about it. Being alone, feeling alone, especially when you need to reach out to someone, when you need someone to just listen or when you need a helping hand, well, it just sucks.

I tried to convince myself for the longest time that I didn't really need anyone but we're social creatures by nature. We might appreciate our alone time but there's that overwhelming instinct to congregate, to find our people, our tribe, our Home Team.

Needing other people isn't a sign of weakness, as some may think, it's simply natural. Don't be afraid to reach out. Of course it takes time to build a support system but there's nothing wrong with taking baby steps, being selective of who you choose to add to your circle. It's definitely a process but I'm glad I decided to take that first step.

Perms are Making a Comeback in 2017? How did I miss this?

All Images from Pinterest

Any of you who were around in the 80s surely remember the perm craze. The bigger the better and everyone who was anyone seemed to be doing it from celebrities to your grandma.

From tight poodle perms to the popular big hair spiral perms, they were all the rage for a good while.

Just thinking about perms brings back memories of hours spent sitting with those plastic rods wrapped tight in my hair and the nauseating chemical smell of the permanent wave solution. Bleh.

The perms of today, however, are much different than what we remember, or so I hear.

Instead of the super tight curls the new perms will offer looser locks and beachy type waves as seen above.

80s Perm Ad

Personally, I don't think I'll be getting a perm... I'll just use foam rollers or some other type of curler to get the look with out the commitment.

How about you? Do you still get perms? Considering it?

If you love your perm, show us!