What if you FAIL? WHAT IF YOU DON'T???

Recently I was approached with a Ground Floor opportunity with a new direct sales company that just launched June 1st, 2017.

I'm not a stranger to direct sales but I've never had the chance to get in at the beginning of a launch and that alone made me want to go for it, not to mention joining was FREE.

The products Country Scents Candles provides are scented candles (of course), Wax melts, Aroma beads and Wax Burners.



I'm somewhat addicted to wax melts so I figured WHY NOT?

I get a 25% Discount/Commission on all products, a free e-store, I only have to purchase SOMETHING once every three months to remain active.

What do I have to lose?

Nothing.

The way I see it, this could be the next HUGE direct sales company. You never know. And what makes it even more appealing is the products are made in the United States, Kentucky to be exact, and that's important to me.

Also, the products are 100% Chemical Dye Free and the candles and melts are made from 100% Soy. When extras are added in to the wax it dilutes the fragrance and I'm all about fragrance and the scent throw on these is amazing.

So the question was posed, What if you put all this effort into this business opportunity and it fails?

Seriously guys, there's a risk factor in everything you do.

What if you get up in the morning, go downstairs, fall on your way down and break a leg?

Does that mean you should stay in bed all day just in case you might fall?

That would be ridiculous, right?

Getting in on the ground floor is such an amazing thing because you can build a team and get a portion of their sales as income.

CAN YOU SAY PASSIVE INCOME STREAM?

Honestly, I don't see the downside to this PLUS I can earn free product and get discounts on something I REALLY love.

Don't let the fear of failure hold you back when it comes to ANYTHING. If you try and fail, you've gained experience.


If you don't try you'll never know and then you'll be plagued with all the WHAT IFS.

I'd rather take my chances.

How about you?

If you're ready to take a risk, plant some seeds today, FOR FREE, I'd love to have you on my team. Just click the Country Scents Candles image above or visit my website and click on Consultant Signup.

=)

Where Shame Comes from... Whitney Way Thore - TEDx Talk

SHAME.

That's a loaded word, isn't it? So many of us feel shame on a regular basis. Shame is our constant companion. It follows us through our day to day life and we sometimes don't even realize it. Shame can come from a lot of places but if not dealt with it can absolutely hold us back from living the life we were created to live.

When you're dealing with shame you always feel like you're less than worthy. It has a way of creeping in and ruining what should be joyous occasions.

Maybe you don't feel like you're a good friend, spouse, sibling, maybe you haven't been to church in a while and not feeling worthy, maybe you're addicted to something, maybe you're fat. Whatever the reason, you're never enough.

Where does this shame come from anyway? Something someone has said to you? Something you've constantly said to yourself?

Somewhere along the way you started to believe you weren't good enough, that you're flawed in some way, or a lot of ways, that you're not worthy. And as crazy as it seems, I think after a while we start to use shame as a crutch. We hide behind our shame. We use it to explain other peoples' behavior toward us.

"No, they can't like me and it's okay because I'm fat, or ugly, or I'm a horrible friend, etc"

We also might use our shame to protect ourselves from the outside world.

I think shame can send us on a never ending cycle of self loathing. We don't value ourselves so we don't expect anyone to see our worth either. It's like we are projecting the hate we have for ourselves onto someone else. Before giving anyone the chance to form their own opinion, we're right in there making it clear that "it's okay that you don't want to be around me, be seen with me, it's okay that you bully me because I accept that I'm a piece of crap. It's okay for you to ignore me. It's okay because I'm too ugly, shy, fat, careless, or lazy"

We need to STOP it.

I'm a big believer in the law of attraction and if we keep letting these negative thoughts lead us, how far can we possibly get? What kind of people are we going to attract into our lives when we feed ourselves these lies about not being good enough.

Maybe we ARE fat.

Maybe we aren't the best parent.

Maybe we aren't the best looking.

So? Why does everything have to be a contest?

Confidence is the key to overcoming shame. Not caring what other people think and getting past caring so much, putting those voices inside your head to rest. The voices that say you're not good enough, you know the ones I'm talking about. How do you drown them out?

I guess you just do what you have to do and don't worry about it. It's scary as hell to think about but I don't see any other possible way. You have to expose yourself to situations that make you uncomfortable. You have to keep pushing forward even when you feel like everyone is laughing at you, looking at you with disgust. Keep going.

Whitney's TEDx Talk really spoke to me because she said something about confidence that totally hit home. She said Confidence comes from action. You don't all of a sudden wake up full of confidence one day and then everything is better. You build your confidence by facing things, taking things head on, realizing that the focus doesn't have to be on you. Inside our heads we are pretty important but in reality we're just a tiny blip. We barely register in the overall scheme of things.

 No, I'm not saying we're insignificant or unimportant but we need to get over ourselves.

There are going to be times when we think we've done everything right but things still go wrong. That's life. There are too many variables in any given situation to keep placing all the blame on yourself.

There will be times when you give someone or something everything you have. You pour your heart and soul out, blood, sweat, tears... but it's still not enough.

Keep going. Don't let anyone determine your worth.

Listen to Whitney's TEDx Talk about Shame & Confidence.

Do You Have a "Home Team"?


Browsing through Facebook posts this evening I came across this certain text image that made me stop and think. 

For days now I've had the feeling that someone out there somewhere is having a difficult time. Someone I'm connected to, maybe a reader of my blog, one of my pages on Facebook... I'm not sure but I can't shake this feeling.

 And then this evening, I read this:




The automatic assumption of many is that EVERYONE has a "Home Team". It's assumed everyone has a support system to turn to when things get rough. It's a nice idea but unfortunately, it's not true. Not everyone has a home team to turn to. I know because I haven't always had one. I'm sure I'm not the only one.

Maybe they've distanced themselves from friends over the years, maybe they have too much pride to reach out and ask for help. Maybe they're so introverted they really don't have any friends, or maybe they suffer from social anxiety so intense they've secluded themselves and shut everyone out. Maybe they don't even know how to begin piecing together a support system. It happens.

Movies and books often romanticize the loner persona. Honestly, there's nothing romantic about it. Being alone, feeling alone, especially when you need to reach out to someone, when you need someone to just listen or when you need a helping hand, well, it just sucks.

I tried to convince myself for the longest time that I didn't really need anyone but we're social creatures by nature. We might appreciate our alone time but there's that overwhelming instinct to congregate, to find our people, our tribe, our Home Team.

Needing other people isn't a sign of weakness, as some may think, it's simply natural. Don't be afraid to reach out. Of course it takes time to build a support system but there's nothing wrong with taking baby steps, being selective of who you choose to add to your circle. It's definitely a process but I'm glad I decided to take that first step.


Perms are Making a Comeback in 2017? How did I miss this?

All Images from Pinterest


Any of you who were around in the 80s surely remember the perm craze. The bigger the better and everyone who was anyone seemed to be doing it from celebrities to your grandma.


From tight poodle perms to the popular big hair spiral perms, they were all the rage for a good while.


Just thinking about perms brings back memories of hours spent sitting with those plastic rods wrapped tight in my hair and the nauseating chemical smell of the permanent wave solution. Bleh.

The perms of today, however, are much different than what we remember, or so I hear.



Instead of the super tight curls the new perms will offer looser locks and beachy type waves as seen above.

80s Perm Ad


Personally, I don't think I'll be getting a perm... I'll just use foam rollers or some other type of curler to get the look with out the commitment.

How about you? Do you still get perms? Considering it?

If you love your perm, show us!


Easy and Cheap Spring Floral Easter Egg Wreath



Spring Easter Wreath


Spring is coming up and Easter is right around the corner so I thought I'd share a little Easter egg wreath I made the other day.

It was pretty easy to make - if I can do it, just about anyone can... And cheap, too (about $7)

Gotta LOVE Dollar Tree!

It's amazing what you can come up with when you make a trip to Dollar Tree. I adore that store (made a rhyme, heh). I feel like I'm rich there because I can put anything I want in my cart and don't even have to worry about the price. ;) Ha! That never happens ANYWHERE else, believe me.

Anyway, I actually had plans on making a larger wreath with full size pink and purple plastic eggs but I found these smaller (about 2 inch) eggs... 24 in a pack, so I decided to give it a go and make a more colorful, floral Easter wreath.

These are VERY easy to make and it took about an hour from start to finish to create this one.

Here's what you'll need:


  • Floral Foam Ring. This one is about 10 inches.
  • 4 bunches of artificial flowers. I used pink and purple lilacs.
  • 2 Bags of 24 Count plastic eggs, the smaller size, roughly 2 inches. I used 32 for this Easter wreath.
  • Crepe Party Streamers in whatever color you'd like, I chose pink.
  • Glue gun (not pictured)
  • Scissors


First, you'll want to wrap the foam ring with the streamer paper and secure with hot glue.


Wrap it all the way around to provide a nice, smooth base to glue on the plastic eggs. When you're finished it will look something like this...


Apply a nice amount of hot glue to a plastic egg making sure the glue covers the seam where the egg opens and closes (so it won't pop open after you glue it on)
Press it on top of the foam ring and hold it for a minute until its secured in place. Don't worry about which way you glue the eggs on. I glued mine on every which way and it turned out fine.
Repeat the process until you have the whole ring covered.


Once you're done with the top, move to the inner circle of the wreath and glue more eggs around the inside. Be sure the ring is laying on a flat surface as you add the inner ring of eggs.



Next pull the tops of the bunches of flowers free from the long stem. Add hot glue to the separated stem with the flowers and insert between each gap between the eggs around the upper portion of the wreath.



Fill in all around the wreath as shown. Be sure to hold each bunch of flowers down for a minute or so until the glue begins to dry.



As you can see above, the stems are pretty visible between the plastic eggs, and not so pretty, so pop some individual flowers off the remaining stems and glue them in various places to camouflage the gaps and stems.


And here you go, a simple, cheap wreath. It cost about $7 total to make and I had some stuff left over.



If I make another one, I might buy one more bunch of lilacs to fill in gaps and make it a little fuller but it's not necessary at all.

This would be a great project to make with the kids but be careful with that dang hot glue gun. I have to admit I'm probably not the craftiest person but I'm REALLY good at getting glue everywhere, including my fingers (ouch).

Sooo, give it a go and be sure to share your finished wreath. I'd love to see what you come up with. =)

5 Ways We Can Choose to Be More Grateful


I'm not sure how many of you are like me, but I've been doing some soul searching and have found out I still take a lot for granted. Not to say I don't appreciate what I have, but I'm sure I could be a little more thankful for all the good things I have in my life.  I've been keeping a gratitude journal for a while and almost every day I write down things I'm thankful for, but still, I need to be more appreciative of the small things.

Upon realizing this, I decided to write down how I could go about embracing gratitude and thought I'd share it with you...

1. Acknowledge that being grateful is a decision

We have to choose to be grateful, there's no way around it. Being happy doesn't immediately cause gratitude to magically happen - sort of, it's the other way around - the more we're thankful for the things we have in life the happier we'll be.

So, being grateful is very much a choice we have to make for ourselves. No one can give it to us, we can't purchase it. We have to realize we're blessed with an amazing life that so many people would love to have. And as sobering as it is, I also realize there are people who didn't get to live to see today... I'm incredibly grateful I woke up this morning. Aren't you?

2. Appreciate the little things

Sometimes it's so easy to take things for granted just because they're sweet little bits of life that we've so grown accustomed to. Things like the ability to turn on a faucet and have clean water, having a warm pair of gloves to put on when we're going out into the cold... just little things that we probably don't give much thought but know that there are people out there who aren't so blessed. Remember to count all your blessings, even the very small ones.

3. Stop focusing on what you don't have

This has always been huge for me. Now, I'm not telling you to settle for what you have, shut your face and just be content, nah, not at all. What I am saying is that although it's great to strive for more don't lose sight of all that you're currently blessed with.

4. Take a good look at the world around you

This world is filled with people who are less fortunate. It's so easy to forget they exist and hyper focus on our little problems. Sometimes some of us may even think that their issues aren't our problem so why be concerned? I'm here to burst your bubble if that's what you think because it sure doesn't work that way. Everything and everyone in this world affects everything and everyone else in some way. We might not immediately realize the connection but it's there. We're all linked together, like it or not. Don't allow yourself to become self-centered and live in a vacuum. Break out of your comfort zone and walk a mile in someone else's shoes. Enrich your life by learning their stories, their struggles, their wants, needs, and how what you've been blessed with compares to what they have.

You know, it's funny how some of the most grateful folks are the ones who have the least, material wise. Ponder that for a while.

5. Imagine yourself with less

Write down some of the things you're thankful for and then imagine those things being taken away from you. Really let yourself feel the emotions of losing the things you cherish, big and small. Then allow yourself to feel the joy of each of those things being reintroduced into your life. For instance, imagine waking up one day having lost your eyesight. How difficult would it be for you to make your way around your home? Think about no longer being able to see the faces of the people you love. All those little things that are connected to your vision that you take for granted - gone. Dwell in those emotions for a while and then imagine suddenly regaining your sight. How joyful would you be to be able to see the beautiful colors of a sunset again? Or to see the beautiful, smiling eyes of your best friend?

All of these things can shift your focus from what you don't have to all the little things that add up to big things. Life doesn't have to be perfect in order for us to be grateful. It's an absolute choice.

Choose to be grateful. Our happiness depends on it.

Don't Let Fear Hold You Back! Learn to take baby steps toward success.





 Recently, I decided to go back to a business that I was an associate with back in the 90s. Even back then I knew Watkins was a solid opportunity but I let so many things (mainly fear of failure) stand in my way of success. First of all, for those who aren't familiar, Watkins is a more than 145 year old company offering a variety of products for life and home that are top quality. They also offer a business opportunity that allows you to choose your own hours and offers the flexible kind of lifestyle so many people desire.

One thing that everyone has to learn with Watkins is that an important part of success with the company is simply using their products in your own home. If you don't use something, become familiar with it, truly love that product, it's going to be more difficult to get others excited about trying it. Besides how can you sell something you can't stand behind?

If you visited the top Chevy dealer in your area and saw the owner drive home in a Ford, what would that make you think?

Would you buy hair growth tonic from a bald man?

Wouldn't you think twice about buying weight loss products from a morbidly obese salesperson?

Exactly. What's even worse, if you aren't a user of your own products, after a while you're no longer going to care about the business because you won't be passionate about what you're doing.

  The same goes for personal development. You can read and listen all you want about different ways to improve your life but until you start practicing those things and going through the steps of making your life better, you probably won't have success.

Sure, you can absorb all that information but if your idea is to absorb it for later use "when it's more convenient" then you've got the wrong idea.

Why put off what you can start right now? Even if you just take baby steps toward improving yourself and your life why not start today? Do something every day that gets you excited... maybe even a little scared. Stop trying to be so careful about everything and just do.

  Back to the Watkins thing for a minute... I was trying so hard way back when to do things perfectly that I didn't give it my all. I now realize I was being too careful. I was worried that if I didn't know everything about every single product I would make a fool of myself.

Watkins offers over 300 products and I thought I needed to learn every detail about each product before I could be successful? How foolish I was!

The key to being successful isn't complete and total knowledge, it's being able to share the excitement and enthusiasm you have for even just one product that you love.

That's right, even just ONE!

When you're passionate about something it just shows and then you can use that to your advantage.

  So whether it's passion for a new business venture (or rekindled passion for an old one), or making your life the best possible through personal development, you need to be passionate about what you're doing, don't just read about what you should be doing - DO what you should be doing to get to where you want to be.

Baby steps... take small steps along the way. Don't feel like conditions have to be perfect before you get started because there will be no perfect time. Finding others who will support you 100% is another great way to be successful.

In the same way as the training site associated with J.R. Watkins, Timeless Integrity, supports its members with conference calls, a free prospecting website filled with all sorts of training materials, added incentives,etc. YOU need to seek out those who support you all the way in your journey. Believe in yourself enough to surround yourself with others who believe in you as well!

So in summary,
  • Don't let fear hold you back
  • Do what you need to do. Don't put it off!
  • Take baby steps but take steps! Don't stand still.
  • Don't worry about doing things exactly right or waiting for the perfect time.
  • Find support. Be your own best cheerleader!
  • Believe in yourself!